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My child is the bully, what should I do?



Addressing your child's bullying behaviour requires patience, understanding, and a commitment to helping them change their behaviour.

Discovering that your child is engaging in bullying behaviour can be distressing and requires immediate attention. It's essential to address the issue promptly and take proactive steps to address their behaviour.


Following are some steps to consider, it is not about doing each and all of these steps but rather walk through them all to find the best solution to the challenge your currently confront:

  1. Stay calm and gather information: Reacting with anger or blame may hinder productive communication. Take the time to gather information about your child's behaviour from various sources, including teachers, other parents, or witnesses. This will provide a clearer understanding of the situation and help in developing an appropriate response.

  2. Have an open and honest conversation: Find a quiet and comfortable space to have a conversation with your child. Explain that you have learned about their bullying behaviour and express your concern for both the well-being of the child they targeted and their own well-being. Encourage open dialogue and listen attentively to their side of the story without interrupting or being judgmental.

  3. Explore the reasons behind their behaviour: It's important to understand the underlying reasons for your child's bullying behaviour. Some children bully others due to unresolved issues, a desire for power, attention-seeking, or a lack of empathy. Encourage your child to share their feelings and thoughts and help them identify any possible triggers or underlying emotions.

  4. Teach empathy and consequences: Help your child develop empathy by discussing the impact of their actions on others. Encourage them to imagine how it would feel to be in the victim's shoes. Discuss the emotional and physical consequences of bullying and the importance of treating others with kindness and respect. Help them understand that their behaviour is not acceptable and has consequences, both for the victim and themselves.

  5. Set clear boundaries and consequences: Establish clear rules and expectations regarding behaviour, emphasizing zero tolerance for bullying. Make it clear that bullying will not be tolerated and outline the consequences they will face if they engage in bullying again. Consistency is key in enforcing these boundaries.

  6. Seek professional help if necessary: If your child's bullying behaviour persists or is severe, consider involving professionals such as counsellors or therapists who specialize in child behaviour. They can provide further insight, guidance, and support for both your child and you.

  7. Foster a positive and respectful environment: Create an environment at home that promotes empathy, kindness, and respectful communication. Model respectful behaviour and encourage positive interactions within the family. Engage in activities that promote empathy, such as volunteering or engaging in community service projects, to help your child understand the value of kindness and compassion.

  8. Work with the school or community: Inform the school or community authorities about your child's bullying behaviour, as they may have intervention programs or resources available to address the issue. Collaborate with them to create a plan that supports your child's behavioural change and provides necessary monitoring and support.

  9. Monitor and follow up: Keep a close eye on your child's behaviour and interactions, both at school and elsewhere. Stay in touch with teachers, school counsellors, or other relevant adults to monitor their progress. Offer ongoing support and guidance to help them develop healthy relationships and make positive choices.

Remember, addressing your child's bullying behaviour requires patience, understanding, and a commitment to helping them change their behaviour. With appropriate intervention, support, and a focus on teaching empathy and respect, you can guide your child towards healthier and more positive ways of interacting with others.


Most of all do not turn away from this challenging behaviour out of feelings of shame or guilt. Like all challenges parents and carers confront in raising a child, this is just another one, so go confidently towards seeking help to change this lived moment.



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