Sensual Massage: a step-by-step guide to
Setting The Scene
Make the environment as warm and comfortable as you can. Use thick soft towels to cushion your partners weight. The massage can take place on the floor, a table or on the bed. Next to the area burn some oils - a soft smell is best try lavender, rose or make a blend.
Finally, pre-warm the massage oil by rubbing it between your palms before applying. Search around for a body oil you and your partner like the smell of, some stores stock a great range of fragrance oils called Sensual, Euphoric and Trance. Each when applied help stimulate the desired response.
What To Wear
Nudity can be a turn on, but also if to soon a turn off. So wear something you are comfortable in, I would suggest cotton underwear and a matching tank top - daggy but groovy. Remember most guys are highly visual so if your partners male what your wearing will help create the mood.
Neck & Back
Place your partner on his stomach with a small cushion, pillow or folded towel under his pelvis. Then position yourself at the side of the body or for more comfort I’d suggest part his legs slightly and kneel between them.
Your first objective should be to put your partner at ease, so go for the tense spots. Usually men store stress around their neck and shoulders, so give him a good rub down using clockwise circular motions on each side of the spine from the top all the way down to the spine.
Don’t be to rough, as this will loose the mood, but be firm. Place your palms flat across the lower back and upper buttock area and slide your hands up the sides of the spine to his neck, then glide down his arms. Repeat this move regularly each time moving further out from the spine towards the side of his body.
When you sense he has lost much of the tension become more gentle and rhythmic. Perhaps continue with feather like strokes of the spine for a while by using the middle finger of each hand, tenderly alternated with long, continuos, downwards sweeps. If used gently men love the feel of finger nails against their skin, so don’t be shy to make soft swirl patterns all over his body especially the back and buttocks, a great way to close.
An often overlooked erogenous zone. Stimulation of the large muscles in the buttocks can increase a man’s libido. Start by squeezing some warm oil onto the cheeks and slide your fingertips all over his bottom from the tail bone round to the scrotum. After that, quick firm chops all over the buttocks followed by a light plucking of the flesh between your thumb and fingers will get him going. Also don’t forget the annal area, men have a high concentration of nerve endings in this spot. So if he’s willing a gentle massage around this area will be very exhilarating. Using more oil, lightly rub over and around his anus with the pad of your middle finger, penetration can be tempting but if not welcomed will reck the whole moment.
When lying on his back the first point of call should always be the face and scalp. Men don’t always associate the face with massage, so do it well as this will be a sensual surprise for him. Position yourself behind your partners head and softly caress his cheeks, forehead, eyelids and eyebrows. Gently run your fingers through his hair, paying particular attention to his temples and the bit behind his ears. With feather light pressure, use the whole hand to stroke down the neck from the ears to his inner arms. Take time to slowly caress the highly sensitive inner part of his elbows (this is another part of the male body often not caressed).
Apply plenty of warm oil to the chest. Then, using your fingertips, firmly rub into the bony indentations that run from his neck to his rib cage. Don’t be shy of his nipples, most men love their nipples being caressed with as it is a highly sensitive spot. Lightly press and pluck them between your thumb and index finger, be careful not to pinch.
The inner thighs are highly sensitive to sexual energy, so give plenty of attention to this area. Run your hands softly up the leg from the inner knee to his groin several times. Then knead the inner thigh like you would dough. Once you are ready move to the feet by tracing little clockwise circles from his knees down to the soles of his feet, be careful not to tickle.
The feet are often a place where men store a lot of tension, so be firm when rubbing this area. Place the foot in the palm of one hand and with the thumb of your other hand rub the sole of the foot, using as pressure as seems appropriate. Don’t be frighten to go between the toes and the all over the balls of the feet. Great to use a foot lotion with peppermint and vanilla as your base oil. For highly active sex the application of lemon grass oil of Euphoric on the soles of the feet has been reported to be highly satisfying.
When massaging a mans genitals a good place to position yourself is naturally between his legs, alternatively beside his hips. Start by raking your fingers through his pubic hair, softly scratching an tugging at the roots. With oil on your hands shift your attention to his inner thighs (remember this is a highly sensitive area) stroke sensually upwards, one hand after the other. Move up to his perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus) stroking lightly in little circles. If your partner is willing encourage him to raise his knees to his chest while you do this. Place your palms on the tops of his thighs and slide them over the pubic hair area in smooth, flowing, continuos movements. Start brushing your fingertips over his scrotum, stroking upwards from underneath. Now gently manipulate each testicle between your thumb and index finger.
If possible sit astride your partner and swivel your hips in sensual circles against his skin. Next, manoeuvre your abdomen lovingly up and down the front of his body, from his thighs to his shoulders. Be sure to have skin-to-skin contact. Finally, start stroking his penis. While you stroke gently claw his stomach with your free hand and pull at his nipples. If you wish to heighten your partner’s sens of anticipation stroke his penis a few times, then stop to massage his inner thighs or scrotum and begin the process again.
Neck & Back
Place your partner on her stomach with a small cushion, pillow or folded towel under her pelvis. Then position yourself at the side of the body or for more comfort I’d suggest part her legs slightly and kneel between them.
Spread the warm oil slowly over her neck, shoulders, upper arms and back in even, circular motions. Relieve the tension by letting your hands slide from the base of her back up to her shoulders in long smooth gliding strokes. To the extra pennaz rhythmically rub your fingertips up and down her spine, one hand after the other. For sensuality occasionally allow your hands to stray to the sides of her breasts and buttocks.
To invoke warm and arousing sensations, first knead her buttocks with your thumbs and fingers. Then, suing the palm of your right hand, vigorously massage the area while your left hand tenderly circles out over her waist and around her hips. Repeat on the other side. This process is designed to enliven the buttock muscles and energise the sexual organs.
Start by slowly stroking the backs of her legs, moving around to her inner thighs. Lightly crawl your fingertips over the skin’s surface, like a caterpillar, then rub your fingers upwards from the inside of her knees to the tops of her thighs, repeat this action several times.
Women tend to find face and scalp massages extremely intimate and bonding. Sit behind your partner with your legs crossed and cradle her head in your lap. Start by stroking her checks an running your fingers across her lips. Using the tips of all your fingers, gently stroke her eyebrows in slight, fluttery movements. To relieve stress gently rub her temples in a circular motion . Work the pads of all your fingers around and into her scalp, giving a though scalp massage, squizzing gently. When this is done, use your outstretched hands to stroke downwards from her jawline to her décolletage (the area between the neck and chest), sliding your hands towards her shoulders, repeat this movement several times.
Chest & Stomach
With women it is good to start with the nipples. Softly pull, flick and circle them with your fingertips. This will help to stimulate a surge of electrifying thrills down in her pubic area. Experiment with pressure to find out which is more comfortable for your partner. Then, with the palms of your hand softly stroke down the sides of her body, from her armpits to her hips, and rub the stomach in smooth, wide, continuos clockwise circles. many women love having their stomach rubbed, this process is not only sensual but also can elevate menstrual cramps, bloating and constipation. Also be sure to gently massage around the inner rim of her belly button, a very sensual spot for many women.
The feet are often a place where women store a lot of tension, so be firm when rubbing this area. Place the foot in the palm of one hand and with the thumb of your other hand rub the sole of the foot, using as pressure as seems appropriate. Don’t be frighten to go between the toes and the all over the balls of the feet. Great to use a foot lotion with peppermint and vanilla as your base oil. For highly active sex the application of lemon grass oil of Euphoric on the soles of the feet has been reported to be highly satisfying.
Start with soft touches around the vagina, gently massaging the pubic area. Lightly rub and twirl the heel of your palm around the clitoris and entrance to the vagina. Then softly stroke and flick the vaginal lips and trace gentle little rings around the clitoris, the vagina and the anus with your fingers. Be careful not to touch the vagina after you’ve touched the anus (or wash your hands first), as this can lead to such infections as thrush.
Squeeze a liberal amount of oil over the head of the clitoris and, using the tip of your middle finger, rub in - use small, compact circles around the top and then move your finger backwards and forwards rhythmically, increasing the tempo gradually. With your free hand, massage her nipples or around the entrance to her vagina or anus. If your partner agrees insert your finger into her vagina or anus to intensify the experience. (Note it is note good to use a massage oil internally, so wash your hands or use a lubricant such as Wet Stuff or K-Y when massaging inside the genital area).
This article original appeared on Shane Warren Coaching & Counselling Services 'My Rambles'